Sorry it's been so long. I have been so sick the last few days... and it's crazy to me how much being sick can throw my whole world into a spiral. Everything in my little world gets off track laundry, dishes, workload, etc., etc., etc.

Now that I am feeling better, I can once again breathe and my taste buds are coming back, I feel the need to regroup and get back to reality.

Although on the grand scale of life, my illness is such a minor event but it got me thinking that what life is like when you have a major life change. A loss of a loved one, divorce, marriage, illness of a family member or major job change. I can just imagine how a significant life event can create disorder and chaos in your life.  How do we deal, how do we keep moving forward?

My first piece of advice for those dealing with major life change is to find some solid ground in a routine. Although hard, do your best to find time for the important things in your life and remove all excess. It's amazing how much excess we really carry around each day that we don't need. Routine is key!

The second thing I would say is to get a support system. If it's a friend, family member or professional ask for help. Too often we let things spiral because we "think" we can manage things. The problem with that, is we don't really know what we need. There is so much emotions going on within our thoughts and actions that we are potentially blinded by the things we can't or don't want to see.

In my experience, the birth of my first child really was my last life changing event. I had to really learn how to let go of trying to control everything, every moment of every day. I learned the importance of knowing how to say "Oh well", and do you know what, at the end  of the day, it really was all okay. The kids didn't break, the house was still standing and the sun rose the next day.

The important thing is that we learn from our experience and take the knowledge with us as we move forward.

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